Working at INEM Jorge Isaacs
After 2 months doing workshops at INEM, what is the status?
35 workshops and 1035 students participating. Jep, it is a lot. I have been working a lot and now all 9th and 10th graders have participated in a workshop. Next up are 11th graders, and I hope to be done with all 11th graders before Christmas break. But here in Colombia many things can happen, and you can never plan, as they say “don’t plan because the plans always change anyways”.
I modify the workshop continously to make it as precise as possible for the questions and doubts that I find common with the students. Here are some of the more frecuent quetions they ask me:
Does a woman’s body change after her first time? The vast majority of the students are convinced that a woman’s body changes drastically after her first sexual intercourse. Her hips widen, breast will grow and her waist will become more marked. Furthermore, some times the gap between her thighs will also be more notable. Depending on the man’s hand it is more or less notable, with other words, it depends on if he is a good lover or not. Some students have a hard time believing that it is not true, they have been told this forever. I try and spend some time on killing this and other urban myths.
Is anal sex bad? Many students are very interested in anal sex. Sex in general is a huge taboo, and anal sex is even more, especially if it is between two men. Therefore, many of the students ask if it is “bad”. We spend some time talking about what is important to remember if you want to practice anal sex. It is also important to emphasize that anal sex is not “bad”, some people like it, others don’t.
Does precum get a woman pregnant? It seem that many youngsters in Colombia practise rejected sexual intercourse, at least it is something many of them aske me about. We spend some time talking about why it is not the most secure method. Talking about all the different methods seems to make many of them realize that other metods than rejected intercourse are actually better alternatives than what they inicially thought. Several times I have heard students say “Oh, they are actually quite safe”.